I’ll admit it. I’ve called people “sluts” before. I’m such a coward that I’ve never even said it to their faces; I said it behind their backs, which doesn’t seem damaging at all, but it is in fact very hurtful.
As I mentioned in a post I wrote a few weeks ago, the terms “slut” and “bitch” have become almost interchangeable in today’s society. We use the terms so often that they’ve lost their venom and shock value.
The term “slut-shaming” came into popular use after the Sandra Fluke incident. Basically, if someone uses their sexuality or sex appeal in a way we do not approve of, we should not “slut-shame” them, or make them feel guilty for engaging in sexual behavior we don’t agree with or wouldn’t do ourselves.
Now, I definitely don’t think we should have to be responsible (either financially or otherwise) for the consequences of someone else’s sexual behavior that we might see as irresponsible. But we shouldn’t call names. After all, it’s not our body. If they want to do certain things, that’s their life – let them do what they like and don’t judge them.
Much easier said than done. I’ll admit my own hypocrisy in this situation; I’m very guilty of “slut-shaming.” I do it all the time, and I don’t think much of it. “Slut” is one of those words I just toss around without thinking of its implications or how its use might hurt someone. To some extent, we are all guilty of saying what we don’t mean.
Unfortunately, it’s part of human nature to judge and condemn. “Slut-shaming” has been going on since the dawn of time, and you can even look in the Bible at chapter 8, verses 1-11 in the book of John, where people condemn a woman “caught in the act of committing adultery.”
“Let he who is without sin cast the first stone.”
Basically, do what you believe is right, and let others do what they enjoy and believe is right… without condemnation. It’s extremely difficult – but it’s an ideal we can all work toward.