Love and Its Many Forms

The WordPress photo challenge theme of the day is “One Love.” The prompt is

The universe is telling me to focus on love. What is it saying to you?

I know it’s technically a photo challenge, but I don’t have any photos relevant to love unless you count the pictures of my cats, which I love very much (insert single woman/cat lady joke here). But the prompt made me think about love in all its forms and what “love” really means to people today.

First, I don’t think “the universe is telling me” anything because the universe can’t speak or send messages. The One who created the universe can, but that’s a different post.

When I was a teenager, I believed in “love” as a series of signs that validated that you were supposed to be with a particular person. At that point, I believed more in the power of these signs and coincidences than I did in mostly anything else. I also believed that love was something that could be controlled and portioned out and given in moderation. I believed that love was something you could learn from a book. And I believed in soul mates.

I don’t think I have a much better idea of love now than I did then, because I’m still tempted to believe in all these “signs” and to try and rationalize love, which isn’t entirely rational. I have come to realize that people tend to ignore all rationality when they “love” something or someone. Love isn’t totally rational, but it’s not totally irrational either. People sometimes fall in love with those who are very bad for them, but those irrational emotions cause them to stay with the person. This happens all the time.

Also, people are often tricked by the media and romantic comedy movies into believing that everyone has a soul mate, and once one meets that soul mate, their life becomes fantastical and dramatic and beautiful and perfect. It ignores the reality that these two people may not be compatible with each other intellectually or in any other way. It’s all self-abandonment and no restraint. Love requires both, but it also requires good judgment so the two are balanced.

There’s a lot more I could say on this topic, but I might have to put that into another post. This one’s gone on too long already. 🙂

4 thoughts on “Love and Its Many Forms

  1. A couple of years ago, on the recommendation of the NYT nmagazine 2 full page book review, I read the book “Stoner” by John Williams. It was one of the most amazing books I have ever read for its truthful musings about life and love. Here is one such quote: “In his 43rd year William Stone learned what others, much younger, had learned before him: that the person one loves at first is not the person one loves at last, and that love is not an end but a process through which one person attempts to know another.”

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