Trapped in a Box

Trapped in a box of tremendous size
It distorts my vision, it closes my eyes

-No Doubt, “Trapped in a Box”

When we judge others, we put them in neat little boxes according to how we believe they will behave. It is a fact of human nature that we automatically make some kind of judgment about another person as soon as we lay eyes on them, and our judgment is often based on how that person looks.

Oh, that person looks just like that guy who used to bully me in middle school. He must be a terrible person, too.

Of course, we may not consciously think that, but prejudices are implanted into our minds. We might have had a bad experience with a person of a particular religion, and because of that, we are wary of all people who follow that religion.

Sometimes our judgments about people may be right, but most of the time, they are wrong. It is true that you may be able to determine some things about a person by the way they look or by the way they dress, but you can never presume to know everything. So when you judge others, you’re really trapping yourself in a box… a box with a very small window.

We all judge. I must have done it at least three times today. But now I catch myself right after I make some kind of assumption about a person and think, They’re probably not like that at all. It’s a hard habit to break, and because we are all human and human nature often gets the best of us, we may never completely break the habit. Even so, think twice before you pass judgment on someone. A person who looks like they might be your worst enemy could end up being your best friend… and vice versa.

Simple Life

I know the video and the song are mainly about marriage, but that’s not what I want to blog about here. A simple life may be too much to ask for these days. The world has gotten more and more fast-paced. All the electronic gadgets that are supposed to make life simpler and easier really make it more complicated than anything else. Because we’re available all the time on our cell phones, iPads, laptops, etc., it’s become more and more difficult to separate our work time from our family time and both of those from our time alone – thus leading to complication and stress.

I’m not the type of person who wants a lot of “stuff.” I don’t need a big group of friends or a high-profile career. I don’t want a huge house or an expensive car or a lot of neat gadgets. I still don’t even have a microwave oven. I don’t get bored easily, so I don’t constantly need to be entertained with the latest fads or TV shows.

Books, writing, a good job, a place to live, and waking up in the morning with enough to eat are good enough to satisfy me. All that “extra” stuff is nice, but I don’t want it or find it necessary.